Often when I’m nervous or scared I will make an excuse for why I can’t do something.  Sometimes it feels safer to stay in the less scary lane right?  However, what I have learned is that we truly figure out who we are when we step into that uncomfort because from that we make great changes.

How often do we make an excuse to not love ourself? Life is too busy, too much work to do, or have to drive someone to a location.  Sometimes we are needed and pulled into so many directions we forget to love ourself.  We also say ‘I want to lose xyz pounds first’ or ‘I don’t have the money right now’.

It’s time we take a few minutes and break down some of these excuses so we can do the things we’ve been wanting to.

“I don’t have enough time for me”

Oh man, this one speaks to my core.  Until within the last few years I had 3 jobs (2 were full time) while trying to balance a healthy relationship with myself and my other half, see friends and family, workout, and just have some alone time.  I found myself more stressed, unhappy and irritated with life than ever before.

If we don’t take are of ourselves mentally we can’t take care of others. It’s so important to take those mental breaks and do things for yourself. Recharge a bit so to speak.

At the boudoir sessions you’re able to breath for a bit and love on your awesome self for the day. No comparison to others, no worrying what others think, or who needs you at that time. You get to see the beauty you truly have and what a great weight off the shoulders that is!

You deserve to take time for you, so why not spend it getting glammed up and having an amazing time?

“I’m not where I want to be weight wise.”

This is probably the most common one I hear and I can relate from one curvy person to another.  Here’s what I will say to this and I will say it over and over again.

Your weight does not define you, does not stop you from loving you or being loved unconditionally.

Again….

Your weight does not define you, does not stop you from loving you or being loved unconditionally!

It’s time to stop the negative self talk and work on changing your mantras.  Repeat after me…. “I am stunning” “I love myself 100%” “I deserve to be loved unconditionally”.

I’m all for having goals, staying healthy and loving yourself along that journey.  Limiting yourself from doing something vulnerable because of how you think you look though is not okay and not healthy.  Nor will it help you along your journey to getting healthier.   In my mind ‘healthy’ is internally and externally. Taking care of the mind, heart and body.

The boudoir experience is about helping the mind first which will lead to helping the body.

“I don’t feel sexy or sensual anymore, so I can’t look like that.”

Then you need to come in and do a session. Simple as that. It’s time.

Life can get carried away and we can lose touch with ourselves, our bodies, femininity or sexuality.  It happens quite often and it’s perfectly normal.  A great way to start exploring this part of ourselves is to have a boudoir photo session. It’ll spark that confidence again and who knows could spark things back up between you and your partner.

Another thing is that you don’t have to wear lingerie to be sexy especially if this isn’t your personality.  There are tons of other ideas and I’m happy to help with that. Remember these sessions are about you, feeling confident and loving yourself.

“A boudoir experience is an investment and I don’t have all the money right now.”

You are correct the boudoir experience is an investment.  It’s an investment in yourself first and foremost. You are investing into your well-being and confidence.  When I did my own session, the confidence that I felt for the first time was life changing. It helped me make decisions in my life that needed that confidence boost.

I also offer payment plans.  We have a couple options in the studio.  PayPal and an in house option.  In order to book your experience there is a retainer fee that’s due, then the day of your session we can set you up with a payment plan for the image purchase order. If you have any questions please email me, I want to have all your questions answered before you come in.

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